This article was shared with me today…
I must assume as those who know me, know I have very strong feelings on this subject, and often speak up about the necessity of men understanding who the real father/daddy may be in matters of divorce or separation. I have realized and understand the joys of parenthood. I understand that when your child is birthed, the umbilical cord is cut and your child is immediately placed into father’s arms and for myself, through eyes streaming full of tears, I promised to always be there and always protect, love and guide each one of my three children.
I am going to go into much greater detail on fatherhood and the importance of all parties always knowing and respecting the real father and honoring certain boundaries, but for now, I am going to respond to this article in which the daughter’s biological mother allows her young daughter to also call her ex-husbands new wife, mommy. So, quickly, that is a synopsis of the article, the little girl calls both her biological mother mommy and her father’s new wife mommy. With that said, I would also be very curious as to your opinion on this subject…
Personally, I must admit, If this works for them, I am happy that it does, I just hope it does not create any confusion for the young child. Our children must always be of paramount concern in such matters. I myself have been in somewhat similar situations. Not through marriage, but dating a mother with children and the children wanted to call me “Dad”. I cared very much for these children, in fact, I would even go so far as to say that I loved them.
However, I was not their father, so I stated that I preferred to be called Donald as they have a father and they should call him Dad. The title “Dad” did not affect how I cared for these children but it may have troubled their father, so out of respect to him, I remained Donald.
I feel pretty strongly about this as I can understand and relate to Bill Hudson who has suffered a lifetime of heartache via Parental Alienation as the direct result of efforts by the so-called, human rights activist, “Goldie Hawn” and her long term so-called, hero boyfriend(In the make believe movies only) “Kurt Russell.” If he were a true hero, 30 years ago he would have said, “These children need to share in their father’s life and they will share in their father’s life even if I have to drive them to see him myself”.
So obviously, if all parties are fine with it, cool. But I believe the biological Father and/or Mother should be the ones agreeing to such a decision well before anyone who is not the biological parent starts calling themselves mommy or daddy.
Christopher, Leesha and Madison Tenn, Always remember and never forget, Your daddy loves you!